As I listen to my nine-year old make music on our kitchen containers instead of doing his multiplication homework (not joking), I also think about how my work relates to my family. And why I can be better at my home job of “mom” because of my day job as SLP. This post is inspired by a dinner I had at my friend’s home the other night. She is a homeschooling mom of 3 very-active boys and I thought… “Oh my gosh. I do not have her patience! I could never handle this every day!”
Let’s temporarily ignore the fact that I am the only income earner in the family and have to work.
Please note that this blog post is personal. I’m not saying that you would be a better mom if you worked. Or she would be. Or he would be (no, that is not a pronoun error). I am saying that I think I am.
1. I am genuinely happy to see my kids when I get home. I miss them during the day. I don’t see them until I get home at 5ish and I love to see their lovely faces.
That joy usually lasts a whole 2 seconds until they start complaining…
2. I can help my kids with school, because I know what is going on in the school setting across grade levels. My son is struggling somewhat with writing. So what am I doing? Creating my own writing prompts and graphic organizers. In addition, I am creating alternate forms to use with my speech students.
Possible bitter future post about my son’s grades and lack of support from school may be coming…
3. I get a break from my home. My home is not especially big and it is way too messy in my opinion. It drives me nuts to see kids’ socks on the floor and in crevices. I cringe when I see a bug on the wall. I appreciate getting away!
Which is why I’m also looking at new homes…
4. I organize my time. Time is precious. If I am home all day, I often get nothing done. I mean nothing. You would think I’d get oodles of things done during my school vacations. Bwhahaha! Nothing. Yesterday, I was home for ten minutes between work and picking up the kids from activities. During these minutes, I did more than I can get done on an entire weekend. There was time pressure and I was going to live up to it.
I am capable of being an efficient cleaning speed demon when motivated.
5. I exercise. Since I have to leave the house anyways, I have little excuse (you know… aside from the obvious one of sleeping) to not go to the gym. So I go. Every day.
So, am I glad that I work? Yes. Do I always love my job. No. Do I think that I am a better mother because I work outside of the home? Yes. Would I work part time if I could? Heck yes. Am I super excited about summer break? Yep!